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At last, a sneak peak at FIT & Flirty’s Athleisure Brand launching later this summer!

I’m so excited to share with y’all a sneak peek at FIT & Flirty’s new chic athleisure brand created to celebrate fitness fanatics and champagne lovers through a collection of bubbly, athletic inspired designs. Here is a picture of one one of the designs in  the cap sleeve t-shirt.

FIT and Flirty’s Weekend are for leggings, running and champagne poppin’ cap sleeve t-shirt

There are so many reasons to celebrate life and making fitness part of your everyday is a big one! Your fitness journey is as unique as you are; be proud and recognize each victory and every stage of growth along the way. Champagne is a universal symbol of celebration, so join FIT & Flirty and raise a glass to YOU and your fit & fabulous life!

Who’s with me? WEEKENDS are for leggings, running and CHAMPAGNE POPPIN’ 🍾🍾🍾⠀

SIGN UP NOW so you don’t miss any of the buzz and bubbly fun!!! More product details, launch date, discount codes and giveaways coming soon!!

Cheers! xo

Fabulous reasons why Champagne will never go out of style. Not to be mistaken for sparkling wines like Prosecco or Cava, a real bottle of Champagne, must be made from a combination of three specific grapes grown in the in Northwest Region of France called Champagne. A bottle has about 49,000,000 million bubbles!

A Sign of Luxury

Champagne is known as the ultimate luxury drink, and nothing says luxury more than Marilyn Monroe bathing in champagne. Yes, the blonde bombshell icon once filled her bathtub with 350 bottles of champagne and took a relaxing soak.

A Champagne Fact You’ll Never Forget

Research in 2013 from the University of Columbia shows that champagne contains proteins that are beneficial for your short-term memory. A study by Reading University in 2013 said that three glasses of bubbles per week can help improve it.

 

Heart Health

Everyone says that red wine is good for your heart, but champagne (which is mostly made from red grapes) is just as healthy. Studies found that the sparkling wine contained high levels of polyphenols – antioxidants found in red grapes but less intensely in white – that can lower blood pressure and prevent heart problems.  In fact, Reading’s Dr Jeremy Spencer, a man who appears to have generously given his life over to finding reasons for us to drink more, suggested that two glasses a day will do the trick.

Say Goodbye to Champagne Poppin’ and Say Hello to Champagne Sabbering!

Sabering is the act of opening a champagne bottle with an actual sword. The traditional technique includes slicing off the neck of a bottle with a single sword stroke —this is a cool party trick I personally have in my back pocket.

Vegan Friendly

Some Champagnes go through a process that uses fining agents like gelatin and casein to clarify the end product, but if you’re looking for a vegan option then Moët & Chandon, Korbel Natural Champagne and Dom Perignon are your bubbles of choice.

“Middle Finger to my Old Life” – Jay-Z

In 2014, Beyonce’s better half Jay-Z, a long time champagne fan, purchased Champagne Armand de Brignac from Sovereign Brands. A bottle retails for approximately $300. Fun fact- Hip-hop, rap and R&B concert goers are 94% more likely to drink Champagne vs the average person.

Move Over Mimosas

Sunday brunch has just been revolutionized! Champagne is no longer just for mimosas. Try this delicious Strawberry and champagne Pancake recipe and this hollandaise sauce with prosecco on your egg benedict.

Lift Your Spirits

For an instant mood booster, just sip champagne! This is thanks to the magnesium, potassium and zinc it contains.

 “Champagne is the one thing that gives me zest when I’m tired.” Brigitte Bardot

Help Prevent Dementia

A glass or two of champagne could possibly prevent the onset of dementia. Research in Pittsburgh found that the risk in studies were almost halved for those who drank ‘moderate’ quantities. More Champagne health benefits here!

Gluten, Dairy and Fat Free

One glass(120ml) of Champagne has about 89 calories, 0.9 grams of protein, 1.6 grams of carbs and 0 grams of fat!

Sweaty and Bubbly

FIT & Flirty is launching poppin’ athleisure fitness fashion this summer!  Be the first to get a sneak-peeks
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“Welcome to the champagne life / Where trouble is a bubble in the champagne glass / Dreams and reality are one and the same/ And we gon’ do it like this.”—Champagne Life

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What is FabFitFun? It’s a seasonal box of goodies made to feed your soul and allows you to indulge in fashion finds, glam beauty secrets and fabulous fitness products. Every three months you get to look forward to a box filled with the newest most awesome items, hand-picked for you by the FabFitFun team! The products are full-size and delivered right to your door step.

It’s FabFitFun’s 5th Anniversary! Here are some of the company’s highlights since its inception.

  • The first box launched in the Spring of 2013.
  • Customization for select memberships was introduced in the Winter of 2014  to allow customers to pick and choose the design and color of certain products. 
  • The “add on” feature was implemented in the Fall of 2015. This lets you shop super-discounted products that ship for free with your box (now over 100 + products to select from)
  • In the Fall 2015 FabFitFun collaborated with their first charity “The Purple Purse Foundation”
  • March of 2016 the Community Forum was launched as a place for members to chat about the box and products as well as receive exclusive news, content and spoilers.
  • More recently the FabFitFun TV app was introduced, where as a member you have exclusive access to a library of content including workouts from elite fitness instructors, guided mediation and lots of different cooking videos.

So if you’re a fitness fashionista, shopaholic obsessed with keeping up with the latest beauty products and fashion trends take a look what’s inside this season’s box!

WHAT’S IN THE 2018 SPRING BOX

1 –Rachel Pally Reversible Clutch $60

Bonjour!!! This is the cutest clutch and a is a perfect compliment to any outfit. Choose from three different patterns:  Bloom Zahara and Paradise.  Bonus, this purse is also reversible, so you get two for one.

2 – Murad Skin Perfecting Lotion $40

This ultra light, oil-free moisturizer helps blemish-pron skin stay smooth and healthy while providing hydration. Minimizes the appearance of pores, refines texture, and smooths redness. YES PLEASE!!!

Murad Skin Perfecting Lotion

3- ISH Lip Statement Palette $42

With these nudes and pops of color, your lips will create a statement! These 11 intensely pigmented shades and 1 tinted lip topper are enriched with rose extracts, shea butter, jojoba oil, and aloe vera for extra moisture and easy wear. Mix any shades to create infinite combinations of lip colors, customized by you! Add the tinted lip topper for a hint of sheen and a touch of added moisture. Paraben free. Gluten free. Cruelty free and absolutely stunning! Pucker up babes!

ISA Lip Statement Palette

4- Anderson Lilley Sunset Collection Candle $45

Choose from Manhattan Beach, Linen and Super Bloom scent. These beautiful candles are made with hand poured coconut wax blend and cotton, lead-free wick allowing the candle delivers a clean, even burning fragrance. Held perfectly in a lovely copper colored holder.

5 – Dermelect Cosmeceuticals Makeover Concealing Ridge Filler $18

This nail polish helps neutralize your nail color with a natural pink hue while delivering proteins, vitamins and moisture. Protein-peptide, ProSina, strengthens weakened nails and helps restore them to a healthier, youthful state, less prone to splitting and breakage. Pentavitin, a moisture-binding agent, improves brittle nails and increases flexibility.

6 – KNC Beauty All Natural Collagen Infused Lip Mask  $24.99

Their formula blends moisturizing rose flower oil, cherry extract and vitamin E for a gorgeous pout from the inside out. Just say no to lifeless lips. You feel that tingle at the end? Yeah, that’s that the collagen kicking in— going to work to give you that full, enviable look. Not only does it hydrate and plump, the deep conditioning mask will 100% change your lipstick game—acting as a smooth primer for all your favorite shades. Pucker up. babes!

All Natural Collagen Infused Lip Mask

7 – Ettika Day Dreamer Tassel Earrings $58

These super trendy tassel earnings  are to die for! Beautiful and light! Put these cascading beauties on and watch them dazzle you all spring and summer long!

Daydreamer Tassel Earrings

8-Free People x Understated Leather Starry Eyed Travel Eye Mask $40

Get your beauty sleep while you travel the world in our limited-edition travel eye mask in collaboration with Free People. Made of vegan leather with embroidered metallic stars, this sleep mask features a removable cooling eye insert and fully adjustable elastic band around the back for the best fit while you catch some Zzz’s. Available in ballet pink, mint or light grey, this eye mask comes in a reusable clear zip pouch, making it the perfect travel companion.  So damn cozy!!

Free People x Understated Leather Starry Eyed Travel Eye Mask

9- Physique 57 Massage Roller $20

This roller will do wonders for your sore and achy muscles. Will help to improve flexibility, break up scar tissue and keep tender muscles at bay. FYI – I freaking LOVE this product!!!

Physique 57 Massage Roller

 

These nine items above retail at $331.99

My favorite three “I can’t live without (already) items” are the Physique 57 Massage Roller (feels soooo good!) ISA Lip Statement Palette (all shade of pinks and reds) and the Daydream Tassel Earrings (so trendy). The products alone are valued at $120.

So it goes without saying that $49.99 is an incredible price to pay for a FabFitFun box! SIGN UP HERE

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(check out the 2017 Spring Box)

A good friend of mine recently turned fitness fanatic bought me the Cleo Harper’s Coco Bralet in evergreen and a pair of the Dash Shorts in black.  Both items are feminine and sleek, designed with luxurious and functional fabrics. But to be honest I wasn’t sure if the unique looking sports bra would keep everything in place during my high intensity workouts.

Cleo Harper’s Coco Bralet- front
Cleo Harper Coco Bralet – back

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But apparently my friend did her fitness fashion due diligence because it turns out this garment is incredibly supportive and holds everything perfectly in place, nothing moves, zero slips! Even during my craziest cardio sessions, I did not pull a Janet Jackson at the Super Bowl XXXVII halftime show!

So what makes this bra so different? Cleo Harper has the exclusive BodyCapsule™ fabric. The Coco sports bra molds to your body like a seamless second skin. It’s also moisture wicking and antibacterial and is designed to support you with three layers of breathable sports-ready fabric. It has an outer and inner layer of BodyCapsule™ fabric, and a power mesh layer to encase the removable bra cups. (Made so perfectly, the cups don’t pop out or shift when you put this bra in the washing machine.)

Made for any fitness activity, this bra us perfect for the yogis, spinning fanatics, runners, gym goers and cross fitters. In summary, the Coco Bralet is  “Abs-olutely” fabulous and a must have for any fitness fashionistas!

*image from www.cleoharper.com

Every 3 months or so, Cleo Harper releases a new collections of fitness wear and usually includes 12 gorgeous pieces of fashionable active-wear which can be mixed and matched with previous pieces and collections. Just recently released was the Cleo Harper CLASSIC VI collections.  Classic, chic and stunning! I’m off to add some leggings my collection. “Its a great day to add to shopping cart!”

“What you wear is an expression of who you are!” Diane Kruger

Do you have any Cleo Harper workout apparel in your Fitness Fashion Closet? Leave a comment below!

 

Here are 8 reasons why adding a little champagne to your diet is good for your health. Cheers!

Until recently, champagne was typically consumed by the rich and famous or served on very special occasions, like on New Years Eve or at weddings. But consumption of all types of sparkling wines are on the rise over the past few years. I think it may be in large part to the number of Italian Proseccos that have allowed people to dip their toes in the bubbly category at an affordable price.

So regardless if you’re connoisseur of sparkling wines and sip only the best champagne or if you’d rather have a nice glass of Spanish Cava or Italian Prosecco, adding a little bit of bubbles to your diet can be good for your health, and your spirits!

“Always keep a bottle of Champagne in the fridge for special occasions. Sometimes, the special occasion is that you’ve got a bottle of Champagne in the fridge.” – Hester Browne

1- Champagne contains much fewer calories than wine

Trying to keep your weight in check, on a diet or counting calories? Choosing champagne over wine or beer is always your best alcoholic beverage of choice. There’s approximately 78-90 calories in a 4 oz glass of champagne vs 112 – 129 calories in a 5 oz glass of wine (varies between red and white) and a typical 12-ounce glass of beer will run you between 153 -171 calories.

2- Champagne makes your skin sparkle

Champagne contains resveratrol, a potent antioxidant which acts as protection against skin damage. Splash last night’s left-over bubbles on your face to reap the anti-ageing benefits. Champagne is also considered a natural toner, which can reduce inflammation and redness, thanks to the polyphenols  (plant chemicals with antioxidant properties) and tartaric acid. It can work wonders on oily and acne skin as the high concentration of antioxidants will help soak excess oil and sebum, leaving you with a natural glow.

“Champagne is the only wine that leaves a woman beautiful after drinking it.” Madame de Pompadour

3- Abundant in anti-oxidants

All champagne is made from red and white grapes which both contain high levels of resveratrol, an antioxidant that prevents damage to blood vessels, reduces bad cholesterol and prevents blood clots.

4 – Good for your heart

Champagne has polyphenol antioxidants that is known to reduce the risk of cardiovascular diseases and strokes. A flute of champagne a day can lower your blood pressure and is good for your heart and blood circulation.

5 – Shiny Hair

Rid your scalp of product build-up, making way for oil and other essential nutrients. Champagne can act as an amazing hair rinse and add volume to your locks. Bonus, the golden color of champagne can help bring out lighter highlights, leaving blonde hair with an envy-worthy shine.

6 – Bubble bath

A hot bathtub is a great way to decompress and ease your tense muscles. But now you can turn your every day  bath into an exfoliating treat by simply throwing in a few extra bubbles! The carbon dioxide in champagne acts as a gentle exfoliator and helps to soothe dry skin. The acidity will also leave your skin soft and supple.

7 – Cheer up!

Feeling down? Sip on some champagne as it contains natural trace elements that may help boost your mood, says Tran Ky, MD, co-author of The Healing Power of Champagne.  Double the power of positivity by pairing a glass of champers with a healthy fish dish. The omega-3s will also increase your happiness not to mention the crisp taste of champers is a perfectly delight with seafood.

8 – Salad fizz

Got some left over from last night’s bash? Use it to make a light vinaigrette for your salad. “Replace orange and other fruit juices with champagne” says , Health’s Senior Food and Nutrition Editor, Frances Largeman-Roth. The acidity helps cut through the richness of the oil, making it taste lighter and brighter on your tongue than other dressings. Champagne Recipes 

So drink up ladies!

“I only drink champagne on two occasions, when I’m in love and when I’m not.” – Coco Chanel

What’s your favorite bottle of bubbly? Please comment below and share this article with all your champagne sipping friends!

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The “Starlight Tights” will infuse a lil’ magic into your fitness closet!

NYC Pretty Starlight Tights are only available for a very limited time. Christine Bibbo Herr, a well-known fitness & lifestyle blogger, spokesperson and creator of NYC Pretty recently partnered with Four Athletics and designed her own leggings called “Starlight Tights”. Available HERE until February 6th, HURRY UP and get yourself a pair!!

Does running out of champagne count as cardio?

I’ve been following @NYCPretty for some time now and the first few weeks of January I was lovin’ her Insta posts featuring the launch of her new Starlight Tights. Anything with stars, the moon, or that has a “spiritual chic” vibe to it  – is a must have these days!

Twice I went online to purchase myself a pair and got side tracked. Then not long before I left for my Fit & Fit Girl’s luxury fitness retreat in Costa Rica I received an email from the owner Rebecca Garland telling me that Christine from NYC Pretty and her husband John (a professional photographer) would be attending the retreat.  “Not sure how but you know I’m getting myself a pair of those Starlight Tights!” I told myself.

Fast forward to the sixth day of the fitness retreat, Hannah (our personal trainer) and Christine walked into the villa after modeling for a photo shoot and dropped off a big box of fitness wear for us. We all rummaged through the fitness apparel, picking & choosing the pieces that suited us best. Then Hannah came back and said, “Here’s one more pair of leggings.” and threw a pair of NYC Pretty Starlight Tights in the box. All those beach sprints and hill runs came in handy because I shot up and grabbed those leggings before anyone had a chance to even blink! I pulled them on as fast as possible, hoping to god they were my size. Perfection!

Early next morning, I woke up and put on my new leggings for our last yoga class. Afterward John called me over and said, “Let’s do this….”  waving his camera at me. “One second…” I responded as I ran to my room and came back with an empty bottle of champagne in hand. (Long story…)

Now if you’ve been following me for anytime you know two things about me; 1) I love champagne and 2) I do my very best to lead a fit & fun life. To me, a healthy life style doesn’t mean the gym and counting calories. It’s about making fitness fun, tasting all the nutritious foods, being adventurous, taking chances, pushing my boundaries and drinking champagne!

“Everything in moderation, including moderation!”

Choose joy, jump into life with both feet and unleash your bliss!

Early last year I was in the process of re-designing www.fitandflirty.com and I had a vision for the images; I took the time to story-board every scene; which included me in a variety of fun fitness wear doing different workouts with a bottle of champagne always visible somewhere in the photograph. (Sorta like a Superman figure can always be seen in almost every Seinfeld episode) I hired a photographer but alas, life got in the way and although my new site launched the photography project never came to fruition.

Come quickly, I’m tasting the stars!” DDom Pérignon

So, when these few seemingly insignificant moments lined up and these pictures were the outcome, I could not ignore the magical work of the universe. Serendipity comes in many forms; know that the universe wants to give you what you desire. Ask, then be patient and trust in the timing. The universe will deliver what you need at the right time and will remove what is no longer serving you. Remember, not matter how big or small the wish granted, always practice gratitude.

What do you think, was this a random coincidence or a small dose of magic from the universe? Leave a comment below.

If you’re looking to infuse a little magic into your fitness closet, the Starlight Tights are for you! These leggings are bare fabric, high- waisted and beautifully designed!  With less then a week left, hop over to NYC Pretty and snag a pair for only $68 USD before it’s too late!

“Star light, star bright. The first star I see tonight. I wish I may, I wish I might. Have the wish I wish tonight…”

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On Your MarQ Running Co.On Your MarQ Running Co. is fun and stylish running apparel based on witty running quotes and mantras which are inspired by the owner Lisa while she’s out pounding the pavement.

As a female juggling two completely different businesses I understand the struggles and the highs and lows that come with being self-employed, so I like to make a point of supporting small businesses.  For me it’s also important to learn about where my purchase is coming from and who dreamed it up. Getting to know the soul that birthed its creation somehow makes the purchase process magical.

The t-shirts and tanks at On Your MarQ are all unique and playful, jam packed with double entendres. I’ve been eyeing the “Any Given RunDay” tank; obviously perfect for my Sunday run, after the NFL games… and with my big birthday coming up in January, the “Birthday Girl, Pace Yourself” tank is a perfect fit! I’ll get to wear it on my luxury fitness retreat in Costa Rica and it’ll also serve as a reminder to pace my champagne intake!

I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know Lisa on Instagram, her positive vibes and never give up attitude is truly refreshing! After I put in my online order, I reached out to her and asked if  she had time for a short interview and today I’m excited to share with you a little bit more about her journey!

Chasing Boston
New York Marathon

Like so many runners, it didn’t take much for Lisa to get hooked. After she completed her first 5km race she was a full blown running addict.  As a former marine, running was definitely not foreign to her but the feeling of satisfaction and joy that accompanied her when she started running for herself was unfamiliar. 

FIT & Flirty – When did you start your company?

Lisa- I am actually coming up on my one year anniversary which is very exciting!! December 6th of 2016 was our official launch date!! I cannot believe it has been almost one whole year!!

FIT & Flirty- What was the biggest obstacle you had to overcome to see your dream come to fruition?

Lisa- Ahh, my biggest obstacle was myself! lol. I don’t know how many times I’ve talked myself down from this. I’d get excited and then I would say to myself “meh, maybe it’s not a great idea, maybe I’ll be in over my head!”

FIT & Flirty – How do you come up with the slogans/sayings/ideas?

Lisa – Most of the time my ideas come when I’m out on a run! (hence “Designs Born on the Run”)  I’ve had to stop in the middle of my run to jot my thoughts and ideas down on my phone notes so I don’t forget later! The ideas really just flow in. I have a slew of slogans just sitting and waiting. Some may never make it out, but I keep ideas tucked away. Some ideas are really just random thoughts I jot down and may only make sense to me, but I know, in my mind, where I want to go with it. Some ideas are instant and some take time to develop into what makes sense in my head! My latest design for the New York City Marathon was born while I was on a girls trip to NYC way back in April! I knew I wanted to do a shirt for the race, like i did for the Boston Marathon, but it had to be right and it had to come to me. I was running in L.I.C.(Long Island City) Hunter’s Point South Park Pier and along with playing Alicia Keys’ song in the car “Empire State of Mind Part II”, the idea was born. I’ve revised it so many times since that trip, until finally settling on THE one! (I’ll attach pic from running on pier in regular clothes and heeled boots lol…we were just having fun with pics. i f you want to use it)

FIT & Flirty – What’s does a running week for Lisa look like?

Lisa – Right now I am dealing with a nagging hamstring injury so I’m not getting out there like I want to! 🙁 I’m probably only running anywhere from 9-15 miles a week. I’m not currently training for anything, but I’m dying to get back to feeling strong again and crushing some goals!

Birthday Girl: Pace Yourself

FIT & Flirty  – They say that our biggest challenges in life make us who we are; is there a lesson or message you learned during your battle with cancer and would you like share with my readers?

Lisa – Life really is a gift. Try to live each day as such and embrace the good with the bad. If there is something you are unhappy with then make the change. It can start with a small change, a single step towards the bigger picture. I know that sometimes this can be easier said than done (I still work on this everyday), but just know you are stronger than you think and capable of so much more than you think! Never stop fighting!

Well said Lisa!

A true inspiration; with her life shaken to the core with the diagnosis of cancer she persisted, stayed positive and today (bless her heart) is in full remission, living every day to its fullest!

So if you need a remind that you’re blessed, or you’re looking for some running motivation,  good vibes and giggles make sure to follow Lisa  @_onyourmarq and her company IG @getonyourmarq

You can also subscribe to the mailing list On Your MarQ and be the first to hear about exclusive offers and giveaways!!  BONUS – with your purchase you can expect some unique little extras inside you package which show how much Lisa cares for her business and customers! Class Act my friend xo

On this Hallow’s Eve I wanted to shed light and honor today’s modern time witches that are among us; living their truth as strong, peaceful and magical women. Although witches are mostly known as the iconic Halloween character; usually dressed in black with a pointy hat, green skin and flying on a broom stick across the full moon I am here to tell you witches are so much more than a Halloween cliche!

Here’s some very brief history:

Most stereotypes come from the western culture but witchcraft has existed around the world and throughout history in Asian, African and many Native American societies.

Witches were blamed for storms, deaths, accidents, diseases and many other bad things. Witches were typically unmarried, middle aged woman between the ages of 20 and 30 years old. (average life span was 50 years old) She was thought to have received her powers by signing a deal with the devil and he would leave his mark as proof in the form of a mole, birthmark or scar.  It was also believed that the witch would travel with a familiar; which was thought to be a demon in disguise aiding in her bidding; this demon would take on the form of an animal, such as a goat or a cow, but most commonly a black cat.

When witches go riding and black cats are seen the moon laughs and whispers, tis near Halloween.”

If accused of witchcraft she could be summoned to an identity test where she would be pushed off a cliff. If she was a witch she would fly away and if she was not she would die an honorable death. But more often than not, if presumed to be a witch she was burned at the stake. It is estimated that between the 14th and 16th century there was over 100,000 people accused of witchcraft. Although a few men and children were killed it’s been said that at least 90% of the 50,000 + executed were women. Including 20 during the famous witch trials that took place February 1692 and May 1693 in Salem Massachusetts. 19 were hung and 1 was crushed to death.

Not every witch lives in Salem.”

Did you know in today’s modern time, witches still exist?  The modern form of witchcraft known as Wicca was founded in England in the 1950’s. Its members worship nature, and a female goddess. They take an oath to do no harm with their magic. Contrary to many beliefs Wicca is a very peaceful, harmonious and balanced way of life which promotes oneness with the divine and all which exists. There are now more than 400,000 Wiccans in the United States.  But you probably won’t recognize them walking in the streets, since they don’t wear pointy hats or have green skin.

Bow down to all the amazing witches in your life! Today is the day to celebrate them! Happy Halloween Witches xo

Based on what you learned today, do you think you have been accused of witchcraft? Take this test to find out!

 

A boss babe balanced life is mastered by being “fierce, floral & feminine”. I learned the hard way, but it is possible to stay true to your female energy in a man’s world.

In business I was taught to have thick skin and keep my feelings to myself. I was told I had to work harder than guys to be recognized. For ten years I’ve been and independent consultant for publicly traded mining companies, a male dominated industry. I wanted to be respected and prove I was as capable as any man.  My determination to achieve this revealed a side that some saw as harsh and aloof. Like many women I spent years striving for equality in every aspect of my life. Then a few years ago, I realized that  while focusing on being seen as “equal” had lost a part of my feminine side.

I’m a huge advocate of work & life balance. Yet for years I had been denying myself the balance of femininity. I filled every second of my day with work or tasks; I had zero patience for small talk and chitchat. Except for my close friends I was detached and had surface conversations and relationships.  I couldn’t watch TV without channel surfing and I didn’t feel empathetic towards others or myself.

If you find yourself struggling with any of these, here are a few simple tips I used to help nurture back my feminine energy:

1- Enjoy the process: First and foremost, you don’t have to be Wonder Woman and you don’t have to do it all, RIGHT NOW. I’m working full-time and building a new business. Maybe you’re working full time and going to school. Maybe you’re a single mom working and raising kids. Whatever your situation, you’re busting your ass and hustling to make your dreams come.  But ladies, cut yourself some slack, there is no final destination, so enjoy the journey.

2. Take time for yourself: Before if I had a bad day, felt irritated with a situation or stuck on a project I’d force myself to work through it and try to come up with a solution. This would make things worse. Now  I take a deep breath, pour myself a large glass of wine and get in the bathtub. With a clear mind I tackle problems in a more creative and effective way.

3. Morning ritual: Every morning (before checking my phone or emails) I take 5-10 minutes to practice gratitude, this helps to keep me in check when negative situations pop up during the day.  Once I have a coffee I take another 5 more minutes to prioritize my day. I list out EVERYTHING I need to do, then narrow down 3-5 things I MUST DO! This helps me navigate my day and stay focused on what most important.

4.  Activities: I do things that embrace traditional feminine energies like watching a romance movie, going to the spa or getting my nails done. I like getting dressed up and going out for a girl’s night out or stepping into nature. I find engaging in any creative activities really gets me in touch with my feelings: painting, drawing, music, writing or even reading a book of poems.

5.  Accept compliments: when someone say something nice, I accept it wholeheartedly by saying “Thank you”. Feel grateful and recognize the person that spoke up. I like to reciprocate a kind word and make a difference in someone’s day!

6. DRESS THE PART: Three years ago I only had black and grey clothes in my closet, which I thought fit the thick-skinned, all-business persona I was trying to portrait. Floral prints, pinks and pastels were for “girly girls”… But as I embraced my feminine energy I let myself dress “How I felt” by infusing my wardrobe with colorful scarfs and shoes. As time went on I felt  lighter and happier when I was wearing color and that gave me the confidence to be more daring. Now I have a rainbow of dresses beside my “little black dress” in my closet.

Stepping outside my comfort zone and connecting with my feminine energy did not happen overnight; it took time and courage but conquering fears and challenges always makes me feel FIERCE!

“I don’t mind living in a man’s world, as long as I can be a woman in it.” – Marilyn Monroe