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Single ladies, let’s be honest, we’ve experienced that Valentine’s Day where we had super high expectations only to be highly disappointed. Was your boyfriend ever as romantic as Ryan Gosling in The Notebook? I bet he sure as heck didn’t have Patrick Swayze’s moves like in Dirty Dancing. If February 14th was the only day of the year he got you flowers, he probably paid more attention to TV ads than he did you. Then there’s Vday dinner; the restaurants are all booked solid, so you better plan ahead and get a reservation; and make sure your man doesn’t forget his wallet because set menus are always way over priced!  So single ladies, REAL TALK! This year you will NOT sit at home feeling sorry for yourself or spend the day romanticizing about your ex.  Good riddance!

Don’t block love with any negative vibes! Love doesn’t just come from romance; it comes from your friends & family, the universe, your pet and most importantly it comes from yourself. Remember that your heart determines your true relationship status. Now if you’re thinking Valentine’s Day is a made-up Hallmark Holiday you’ll ignore; to that I say, “Good luck!”  Unless you’re living under a rock, you will have to witness co-workers get flower deliveries, heart shaped chocolates and candies will be everywhere and not to mention your Facebook feed will be loaded with love gushing posts. So, as Eckhart Tolle would say,

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.

So on this February 14, 2018 I invite all the single ladies to celebrate not having to celebrate Valentine’s day!

1. Spoil yourself: On this special day, treat yourself like the princess you are! Take the day off work and go to the spa for a massage. Then when you get home, light some candles, take a relaxing bath with your best bubbles, and finish off the day by ordering your favorite food and binge watching Nextflix.2. Go out with you lady soul mate(s): Get dressed up as though you’re going out on a hot date, make a reservation at your favorite restaurant and hit the town with all your single girls. Spend the night laughing about all your terrible Tinder dates and how you once thought you’d never get over your ex? LMFAO!!!

3. Go outside: Get out doors and be one with nature.  Go for a hike, skiing, ice skating or snowshoeing

4. Go shopping – that purse you’ve been eyeing. go get it! Those shoes, you thought were too expensive, they’re yours.  That adorable dress you have no where to wear. Treat yourself, buy it!

5. Give love: Giving always feels better than receiving; get your single friends a card, a box of chocolates or bouquet of flowers and remind them they are loved. Volunteer at a shelter or old folks home. Helping the less fortunate and being the reason, someone smiles because of you is a small gesture that can go a long way. Plus, it being nice feels so much better than stuffing your face with chocolate. Do not drown your sorrows in a box of chocolates!

6. Get your sweat on: try a new fitness class and get your sweat on. Have you ever heard anyone say “damn I shouldn’t have done that workout?” Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that leaves you feeling happier and more relaxed.  Why endorphins and exercise makes you happy.

7.  Alone is better than miserable: Remember being single is always better than being in a relationship that doesn’t fit right, is dysfunctional or is no longer serves you. A boyfriend doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in a happy place. Now don’t get my wrong,  I do believe we all have a prince charming somewhere out there, but while we wait for him to show up in his new Tesla, we will not lay around like sleeping beauties. On February 14th celebrate not having to celebrate Valentine’s day while you still can!

“Being single is pretty good, it’s a nice sense of irresponsibility.” Michael Douglas

FUN FACT: You are not alone. In 2014 the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 124.6 million Americans over the age of 16 years were single; that 50.2 percent of the population!!

VALENTINE’S DAY GIVEAWAY

FIT & Flirty is giving away the very last TWO ABS-olutely Chic Sweat Activated Tank Tops.

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Giveaway Details:

1 – Contest closes February 14, 2018
2 – Canada & USA residents only
3 – Two winners will be announced by February 16, 2018

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* Entries must be submitted by 02/14 7pm. This giveaway is in no way sponsored, administered, or associated with Instagram, Inc. Facebook or Twitter. By entering, entrants confirm they are 13+ years of age, release Instagram, Facebook and Twitter of responsibility, and agree to Instagram, Facebook and Twitters’ term of use.

What did you get from your ex-boyfriend? There always a love lesson, something to be learned from our past relationships.  The ending  should be viewed as a failure. Some people are meant to be in our lives forever and others have an expiry date; I believe there’s something to be gained and learned from each person and situation that enters our lives.

My ex and I were together for over 10 years and he gave me the gift of the NFL. That relationship also taught me many valuable lessons. (Too many to list here) But the one that stands out the most is, “The truth always reveals itself.”

When we first met, I’d never watched a football game in my life! On Sundays I’d tag along to his buddy’s house and we’d sit around watching game after game, I was bored to tears! Every play, interception and fumble looked the same; I honestly thought it was all one long never ending game! After a few months of listening to the guys argue over plays, who’s the best quarterback and their endless excuses for losing in the fantasy pool I started to form an understanding. Plus the fashionista in me had a knack for remembering wins and losses by the teams’ uniforms colors. “Oh the guys in the hideous blue and orange outfits…they won last week.” (Denver Broncos) The guys laughed: “Uniforms, not outfits!”

Near the end of the first season I developed a crush on John Lynch a hot strong safety and I was obsessed with Jon Gruden‘s weekly sideline tantrums and so I pledged my alliance the Tampa Bay Buccaneers.  FYI they won the Super Bowl that year!

In December 2009 I went to my first NFL game; San Diego Chargers at Dallas Cowboys. We enjoyed pre drinks in the Absolute Vodka bar and we were spoiled with Club Seats – football heaven!

The energy in the stadium was infectious; there was excitement and passion in the air, as well as an unspoken respect amongst the fans. The sense of family from strangers was comforting to me, as it was also on this day that I accepted my fate, without a doubt I acknowledged to myself that my relationship would not survive the coming year.  From that day forward nothing was ever the same; once you accept your truth you can never go back. Our relationship was flawed and unhealthy and we both played our role in its downfall. But without it, I would not be who I am today.

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Fast forward, October 4th 2015 Wembley Stadium, London U.K.  New York Jets vs Miami Dolphins in a sold out stadium with over 85,000 fans. It was a “home game” for the Dolphins but you’d never know by the sea of different teams represented; Vikings Fans, Patriots Fans, Browns, Chicago, Indy, Cincin, Seahawks, Chargers, New York Giants… I even saw seven Buccaneers fans! It truly was a Football is Family moment.

Over the past six year I’ve been to 17 games in 9 stadiums and I love the emotional rollercoaster ever season. I cry tears of joy and tears of sorrow. I laughed until it hurts. I thrown things at the TV, and break stuff. I lose my voice from yelling. I’ve almost peed my pants waiting for half time. I’ve suffered hangovers that near killed me and I keep losing ridiculous bets. Along the way I’ve had the pleasure of meeting many awesome people from all walks of life. I’m blessed that some have had a real impact on me and will forever hold a special place in my heart. The NFL has given me some of the best memories of my life and for that I will always be thankful to my ex.

To those resisting change and struggling with the heartache of a breakup I say to you, “The truth is inside you, all you need to do is acknowledge it! You cannot out play or outsmart the universe, so trust that it’s giving you exactly what you need. Once you fully accept the now, your eyes will be open to your lessons and letting go will become much easier.”

Peace out & love
Love Lessons

What’s your status this Valentine’s Day?

1 – SINGLE?
2 – TAKEN?
3 – WHO CARES… I’m Awesome

Let’s be honest, regardless of your relationship status Valentine’s Day can imply high expectations and at some point we’ve all been disappointed. Single ladies sit at home feeling sorry for themselves; drowning their sorrows in a bottle of red wine and stuffing their face with heart shaped chocolates. Taken women all over the world are upset by the lack of creativity or forethought from their partner. Recently broken up or going through a divorce ladies can easily spend the day romanticizing about the failed relationship.

Well no more!! This year, I want you to remember that “single” and “taken” are just titles; your heart determines your true relationship status; and if you’re thinking Valentine’s Day in just a made up Hallmark Holiday to be ignored; to that I say “Good luck!” You will witness co-workers get overpriced flower deliveries, heart shaped candies, chocolates and cookies will be everywhere and your Facebook feed will be one love gushing post after another. So as I always say “Don’t fight life go with it!” On February 14, 2017 no matter your relationship status, celebrate the day of love!

FIT & Flirty’s Valentine’s Day Tips

Singles, recently broken up or divorced

  • Don’t block the energy of love with negative vibes! Love doesn’t just come from romance; it is received from friends, family and pets; it comes from butterflies and rainbows, from the universe and most importantly from yourself.
  • Giving always feels better than receiving; get your single friends a card, a small box of chocolates or bouquet of flowers to remind them they are also loved.
  • Get dressed up as if you’re going on a hot date! Because we feel better when we look fabulous!
  • Make plans with a single girlfriend: go out to dinner at your favorite restaurant or stay in with a bottle of wine, order in some Thai food and laugh about all the bad dates you’ve been on or exes you thought you would never get over.
  • Pamper yourself: go to your favorite workout class and relax at the spa.
  • Check your local guides for fun Anti-Valentine’s Day events in your area.
  • Remember being single and happy is always better than being in a relationship that doesn’t fit right, is abusive, dysfunctional or no longer serves you.

FUN FACT: You are not alone. In 2014 the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 124.6 million Americans over the age of 16 years were single; that 50.2 percent of the population!!

Taken, in love, committed

  • Stop with the unrealistic expectations! Your life is not a romance movie and Ryan Gosling is not your boyfriend!
  • Be honest and clear with your partner what you would like; take the pressure off him and plan a fun date together.
  • Make an agreement to take turn to plan the celebration of love. There is no rule book that says he is the only one that has to be romantic!
  • Stay in and cook a new recipe you’ve been wanting to try together, while sharing a bottle of wine.
  • Get out and be active; go for a hike, skiing, ice skating or snowshoeing
  • Play hooky and stay in bed all day together 😉

VALENTINE’S DAY GIVEAWAY

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3 – One winner will be announced by February 16, 2017

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