When a relationship comes to an end, I don’t think it should be viewed as a failure. Some people are meant to be in our lives forever and others have an expiry date; I believe there’s something to be gained and learned from each situation.
My ex and I were together for over 10 years and he gave me the gift of the NFL. That relationship also taught me many valuable lessons. (Too many to list here) But the one that stands out the most is, “The truth always reveals itself.”
When we first met, I’d never watched a football game in my life! On Sundays I’d tag along to his buddy's house and we’d sit around watching game after game, I was bored to tears! Every play, interception and fumble looked the same; I honestly thought it was all one long never ending game! After a few months of listening to the guys argue over plays, who's the best quarterback and their endless excuses for losing in the fantasy pool I started to form an understanding. Plus the fashionista in me had a knack for remembering wins and losses by the teams' uniforms colors. “Oh the guys in the hideous blue and orange outfits…they won last week." (Denver Broncos) The guys laughed: "Uniforms, not outfits!”
Near the end of the first season I developed a crush on John Lynch a hot strong safety and I was obsessed with Jon Gruden's weekly sideline tantrums and so I pledged my alliance the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. FYI they won the Super Bowl that year!
In December 2009 I went to my first NFL game; San Diego Chargers at Dallas Cowboys. We enjoyed pre drinks in the Absolute Vodka bar and we were spoiled with Club Seats - football heaven!
The energy in the stadium was infectious; there was excitement and passion in the air, as well as an unspoken respect amongst the fans. The sense of family from strangers was comforting to me, as it was also on this day that I accepted my fate, without a doubt I acknowledged to myself that my relationship would not survive the coming year. From that day forward nothing was ever the same; once you accept your truth you can never go back. Our relationship was flawed and unhealthy and we both played our role in its downfall. But without it, I would not be who I am today.
Fast forward, October 4th 2015 Wembley Stadium, London U.K. New York Jets vs Miami Dolphins in a sold out stadium with over 85,000 fans. It was a “home game” for the Dolphins but you’d never know by the sea of different teams represented; Vikings Fans, Patriots Fans, Browns, Chicago, Indy, Cincin, Seahawks, Chargers, New York Giants… I even saw seven Buccaneers fans! It truly was a “Football is Family” moment.
Over the past six year I’ve been to 17 games in 9 stadiums and I love the emotional rollercoaster ever season. I cry tears of joy and tears of sorrow. I laughed until it hurts. I thrown things at the TV, and break stuff. I lose my voice from yelling. I've almost peed my pants waiting for half time. I've suffered hangovers that near killed me and I keep losing ridiculous bets. Along the way I've had the pleasure of meeting many awesome people from all walks of life. I’m blessed that some have had a real impact on me and will forever hold a special place in my heart. The NFL has given me some of the best memories of my life and for that I will always be thankful to my ex.
To those resisting change and struggling with the heartache of a breakup I say to you, “The truth is inside you, all you need to do is acknowledge it! You cannot out play or outsmart the universe, so trust that it’s giving you exactly what you need. Once you fully accept the now, your eyes will be open to your lessons and letting go will become much easier.”
Peace out & love